THE ART OF EMBRACING REJECTION
DEAR READER, BEFORE READING THIS ARTICLE, I MUST CLARIFY MY REASONS FOR WRITING SUCH AN ARTICLE.
This article I have written is directed to believers mature enough and have a firm foundation in the LORD, and are ready for a dating relationship, if considering dating. The most important foundation for a relationship is FRIENDSHIP!!!
SOME OF THe WORDING IS CUT AND AND DRY, SO I ENCOURAGE YOU TO LOOK AT THE SPIRIT BEHIND THE WHOLE ARTICLE.
If you are fearful of rejection then that fear might keep you from doing anything where rejection is a possible outcome. And we all know how often rejection is an outcome when it comes to dating. And that’s why it’s important to look at rejection from the eyes of God. Here’s a sneak peak: If you see rejection as a good thing and not as a horrible and fearful thing, then your dating life will show it. When you learn to embrace rejection, your whole outlook on life will change for the better. The thing you need to remember is that rejection always makes things better. Sure, it doesn’t fell like it at the time. Your heart has been ripped out and stomped on (or something like that), but the truth is that will ultimately make things better. In a good relationship, you have two people whole like each other. If one person is in like and the other isn’t, that’s a messed-up relationship. And you don’t want that do you?
So you want a relationship where both people like each other equally. That’s why rejection is good; it stops the bad relationship before it starts or before it gets worse, and it resets your dating meter. You get to start over fresh without Mr. or Ms. Not Interested dragging you down and keeping you off the market. And whether you can buy that or not, at the very least can buy the truth that God works all things together for the good of those who seek him? It’s true. His word says it (Romans 8:28). If you believe God’s Word then you can never fear rejection. You have to know that God’s ways are bigger and smarter then your ways and he’s going to make something good out of something that looks awful from your viewpoint. So learn to embrace rejection and trust God to take care of you. When you do you’ll be more open to the people around you and less likely to the set fire to a perfectly good relationship by fearing potential rejection before it even happens.
One thing to learn about rejection is that some of the most successful people in history are people who embraced rejection. They weren’t successful on their first try; few are. But these successful people didn’t give up. If one way didn’t work, they tried another. Each one of them realized that each failure only brought them one step closer to their goal. And you can think about it like this: each time you are rejected you can know for sure that you can cross that person off your list. They are defiantly not the one. And suddenly your odds of finding the one get better. So think of rejection as a necessary step on the road to success.
THE FEAR OF REJECTION
The fear of rejection is nothing new. People have been suffering from it for centuries. It’s a real thing that can paralyze people and mess up relationships. But it doesn’t have to be. Let’s first take a look at how the fear of rejection instead of the open embrace of it can ruin or at least greatly stun your love life.
GUYS WHO NEVER ASK
When a guy fears rejection, his love life suffers. why? Because he’s too afraid of rejection to even ask a girl out in the first place. The truth is that most girls don’t judge you when you ask and strike out. They don’t dislike you anymore after you ask than before. But they can get hurt and confused when you are too afraid to ask them at all. It’s a compliment to a girl to get asked out. But if you are too scared to make a move, your “movelesness” tells her you aren’t interested.
If you are a guy who fears rejection, then have not fear, I’ve got the answers for you. You can greatly improve your chances for of getting a yes by doing a little groundwork. When you spend the time to read her signals and see if there is any friendly attraction at all, then you’ll be more likely to get the answer you want. Girls who like you send off signals. They smile when they see you. They laugh at your jokes. They might touch you arm lightly while talking to you. If they see you seeing them seeing you from across the room then they might look away quickly in embarrassment. They also will strangely enough be where you are a lot of the time. They just want to get your attention so you can see all the the signals they are sending and so you can ask them out.
So here’s the deal, check the signals. If you are getting some from the girl you like, then signal back. Be where she is. Smile at her. Tell her jokes. See if she still laughs. Touch her arm lightly for a second and see how she reacts. watch and see if she’s trying to tell you subtly that she wants you to get to know her better. If the signals are there, then embrace the chance you have to ask her out. (Ask her out= Get to know her by establishing a friendship with mutual maturity.)
Embracing her signals and getting to know her as a friend will greatly reduces the chances of her saying no. By growing in friendship, It let’s her know that your interested, and saves you both from the EMOTIONAL PIT of a break up, if it doesn’t work out.
To be continued….